How Involved Should Your Groom be in the Wedding Planning?
Feb 1, 2013
It used to be that the responsibility of planning the wedding fell solely to the bride. Today we often see the groom come out of the woodwork and lend a hand in the wedding planning, and we’re not just talking about tagging along to check out venues and taste cake. Some grooms are so involved that they an opinion on every aspect, from the font style on the place cards down to every last flower petal of the bouquet. We wanted to know how brides feel about sharing the spotlight with their fiance before the big day. Just how engaged is the hubby-to-be in the planning? Do most brides want their guy more involved in the decision making process, or should he just stay out of the way?
Most brides would probably agree that they want their beau to at least have an interest and make an attempt to participate, but when it comes down to it, they have the last word.
Our office manager Kristi, who is engaged and has her wedding date set for September 21st, shared some insight.
“Steve and I definitely took the planning on as a team, and that’s the way I like it. I think most women probably want to have full control, but there are many who want their guy to be a little involved when he’s just not into it. I got lucky – we make great decisions together.”
She’s definitely right that there are many “men’s men” who would rather leave everything up to their bride. For others, like Melissa W., it’s the exact opposite. “My guy is too involved,” she says. “I wish he would step back and just let me take control.” She thinks that if they could see eye to eye when it comes to their ideas that she would be more gung-ho about him helping out.
Others agree that it’s best for the groom to back down completely and let the bride run the show. “My future son in law is being smart and giving my daughter full reign,” said Jane C. of NM. But that doesn’t mean a guy can’t share some of his opinions! “He offers input, then steps back and lets her choose,” she added.
At the end of the day, the groom should back the bride and respect her final decisions…even if he doesn’t like them. No sulking allowed: the bride may have the power to make the final calls, but he should still be ready to assist when she needs him, like Tracy W.‘s fiance who also let her take the reigns. “He’s very willing to help with whatever I need and make phone calls, attend appointments, etc.”
Have a great weekend! ~ Kelsey
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